After last night's Presidential debate, it seems like a good time to talk about LIES...
I believe that we each have a BIG LIE.
A BIG LIE is what makes us hide from who we are. It comes from a hurtful place in our past. It’s something we can’t shake off. It’s something we don’t share. It’s something that defines the mask we wear.
The BIG LIE makes us believe we aren't enough, like we don't belong, we don't have worth.
I repeat. EVERYONE has a big lie. EVERYONE.
I’ll tell you mine…
For nearly a decade, I was bullied. I had no self worth. I hated myself. But when I went viral, I got this rush of mass validation I'd never felt before. It drove me to crave more. It made me feel like a somebody. It felt amazing…
But within days, I realized it was all bullshit. It had nothing to do with ME, but rather this fake version of me I had embodied for years. Who the hell was I, I panicked? I was messed up, depressed and everything around me fell apart. My lie drove me to a breaking point.
My BIG LIE was that I was okay. I didn’t seek the help I needed as a kid or adult. I didn't know how much I hurt. I lied as I stood smiling for the cameras during my 15 minutes and beyond. And it nearly killed me.
BUT one night, I had no option but to open up. And it set forth a string of incremental, anonymous sharing in spaces I felt safe. I came to learn that I wasn’t alone - not by a long shot. As I've learned, everyone - regardless of age, place or background - has a BIG LIE somewhere in them.
And that changed everything. Pain is pain. But loneliness is unnecessary. And knowing I wasn’t alone gave me the courage to meet my pain head-on.
So over the past year…
I have worked with mental health experts, social workers, teachers, students and police officers to create an experience that would shortcut this silent suffering and give people the chance to open up, even a bit.
We created “What’s Your Big Lie?”. It’s a breakthrough mental health program that uses technology to share our BIG LIE safely and anonymously.
The lies are projected in real-time, in front of hundreds of people, opening up more sharing and storytelling.
There is a wildly visceral sense of “I thought I was alone but I’m not” that you can feel in the room EVERY SINGLE TIME.
Tears, hugs and standing ovations are normal. And afterwards, there is a campaign that is designed to sustain and celebrate bravery and openness. Who thought a lie could be so beautiful?
We’re booking this experience at high schools, colleges and universities across North America.
SO, what do you think? Want to read a sample of the lies? Want to bring it to your community? Want to help in another way? Check out www.yourbiglie.com and join us.
It’s been a wild journey, but we’re just getting started.
PS. Big thanks to my buddy Scott Summerhayes for shooting and directing the trailer!